I often think the whole journey of being a mother consists of two prayers:
“Thank you, thank you, thank you,” and “Please, please, please.”
Our hearts are so filled with love and gratitude and disbelief at the creation of a child. Our heart fused forever to the little that is placed within our arms. Disbelief, wonder, joy and a certain speechlessness, that doesn’t last much to the disappointment of our husbands, overcomes us and our heart beats, “Thank you, thank you, thank you.”
The whole journey of motherhood from newborn babies to becoming a grandma is characterised by a deep, deep desire to be a good mum, to do the best that we can. We want the very best for our children. We cry out for wisdom, we go in search for wisdom, we long to be the very best mum we possibly could be. In that longing we breathe the words, “Please, please, please.”
Sometimes mothering can feel like a fog. It is possible to be completely isolated when our children are babies. We spend our days in our homes isolated from everyone and everything. Our days consist of nurture, feeding, rocking and cleaning.
Mothering older children can also feel like a fog. Our children experience problems and dilemmas that are unique to their own wiring, temperament and gifting. Life can also be filled with hurry as commitments fill our calendar leaving us often isolated and alone. Sometimes we are not quite sure how or where to go for help. Deep reflective, wonderful life giving conversations with friends hard to have simply because hurry and pace chew up time.
I don’t think that as mothers we ever grow out of the prayer, “Thank you, thank you, thank you,” and “Please, please, please.”
But the one thing I have learned is that mothers given space and time love to lean into one another. That mothers of all ages are anxious for their “please, please, please” requests to be heard and for possibilities and answers to be given. Moreover women of all ages with a mothering spirit have something to contribute to each other’s please, please, please.
There is nothing like a gathering of close friends to refresh and strengthen us and to help us with this incredibly journey called motherhood.
Feeling like you want to lean in to other mothers here are two spaces we have created:
Soul Care – A space every Tuesday for mothers to nourish their soul at Tailrace Centre with other mums.
Play group – Mum, Dad and Me – a space created for mums to do life with each other every Wednesday morning.